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A Wise Woman

Posted on: February 6th, 2015 by Sandi A No Comments

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This week, I read a blog post on Inside out with Courtnaye about becoming a wise woman in 2015. This post really encouraged me and I actually decided to put into practice some of the suggestions she made.

In the Bible, the book of James 1:5-6 tells us “If you need wisdom-if you want to know what God wants you to do-ask him, and he will gladly tell you. He will not resent you for asking. But when you ask him, be sure that you really expect him to answer, for a doubtful mind is as unsettled as a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind.”

Basically, this means that if I don’t know what to do, I should ask God. Because He knows what to do. And because He is God, He knows the best and the right thing to do; so who better to ask than God Himself right?

This past week I was not in talking terms with one of my friends (Dina*), and I really struggled to know what to do. I was immediately going to call one of my girl-friends to ask for advise, and I remembered that God knows what to do.

So I asked Him.

I just said, ‘God, you know what to do. Please show me what to do. Please speak to me plainly and simply so I can understand what to do. I am not going to ask anyone else except you.’

That same day, I felt the Holy Spirit direct to speak to Dina. It was a conversation that didn’t get the issue resolved. But I could see light at the end of the tunnel. That same night before I slept, I told God, ‘Lord, I am not going to do anything about this. Please you sort it out. I won’t push this any further.’ The next day, the Holy Spirit just told me to remain calm and not to worry about the issue. Before the day was over, lo and behold, Dina made contact and apologised.

Now ladies, my point is this, many times we don’t know what to do and we tend to automatically call one of our girlfriends or whoever we are close to. I am not saying that this is wrong. 

If you need to know what to do, He will direct you. He will tell you what to do.

All you have to do is ask. He did it for me, and He can do it for you too!

Read Courtnaye’s post on becoming a Woman of Wisdom here

*name changed.

Don’t forget!

Posted on: April 19th, 2014 by Sandi A No Comments


It’s that time of the year again. Most people are eating Easter eggs and putting on a few pounds they will be complaining about next week =)

Today I write to remind you not to forget the reason for this weekend.  I came across a few Facebook statuses I want to share with you!

Truth #1: “Don’t forget, Jesus is the reason for THIS season. Not the Easter bunny!  (Mary Mary)” – many times we get into the whole Easter eggs thing that we forget that Jesus actually died for us. He took our place so that we can live again, so that we can have a place in heaven. Not many people would die for you, let alone the whole world.

Truth #2: “Saturday. The day between the death & resurrection. So often we get so dismayed in the waiting- but HOPE- His promise WILL BE fulfilled.  (Kari Jobe)” – this touched my heart. Just when everyone including the devil himself thought that it was over, Jesus was getting ready to rise again on the third day. Be not dismayed friend. Your deliverance is coming. I pray that you have fresh hope and joy right this moment as you wait for the fulfilment of what God has promised you. It’s coming.

Truth #3: Before I share this status, I just want to say that this is a perfect summary of why we celebrate Good Friday and Resurrection Sunday.

Why do we commemorate Jesus’ death on the cross by calling it “Good Friday”? From Billy Graham:

What appeared at first to be a tragedy was in fact a triumph—because by His death on the cross Jesus Christ purchased our salvation. We are separated from God because of our sin, and because we are sinners we have no hope of eternal life. God is pure and holy, and even one sin—just one—would be enough to keep us out of heaven. But by His death on the cross, Jesus Christ became the perfect and final sacrifice for our sins, and because of that, heaven’s door is now open to all who put their faith and trust in Him. And that’s why we can call the day on which Jesus died “Good Friday.” In fact, it was the greatest Friday in the history of the human race, because on that day Jesus Christ won our salvation. At one time, the Bible says, we were “without hope and without God in the world” (Ephesians 2:12). But now we have hope, because Christ died for us.” (Mandisa)

With all that shared, I have nothing more to say except, may you have a fulfilled weekend as you commemorate Jesus’ death and resurrection.

To finish off, be blessed with this video from one of my favourite people in the whole wide world, Davy Flowers.

Spoken Word by Davy Flowers from Pinelake Church on Vimeo.

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Guest Post: Best friend, close friend, good friend, no friend? Part 2

Posted on: December 29th, 2013 by Millicent Mazibuko No Comments




Milli is an inspiring woman of God who has a passion for sharing her testimonies with anyone she meets. As a South African native, she has a love and the gifting to connect with  people of different cultures.  Read on as she shares about friendships from different seasons of her life. You can connect with her on facebook



Following on from yesterday…..

Being in a new country, I was faced with the challenge of finding good friends in my final years of high school. It is funny, if you hail from an African country you can identify with me, we are taught by the media in our countries that English people are posh and polite. Of course, I had assumed that the children in Pride and Prejudice were going to be pleasant peers to make friends with (lol). What a shock to my fixed perspective system, when I was placed in a chavy school and I was smacked with the reality that a large majority of my disrespectful classmates, who would be effing & blinding teachers, (one guy even angering and being chased by one of my old lady business  teachers) were not going to be my best pals.  Nonetheless I found myself desiring to immerse into their culture, never the behaviour though. I picked up a South African version of their cockney accent, terms and mannerisms (the power of influence). Yes again I thank my Heavenly Father that he saw  my unspoken pain ( classmates making fun and bullying me), he remembered my prayer that I wrote in my 2005 Diary: “to have friends who love me for me”, and He blessed me with kind friends who I was grateful for even though we were not close.

During my college and university experiences, I gained many friends from all walks of life. I was appeased with the idea that I could relate to individuals from various cultural backgrounds, not surprisingly so considering my love for people and their distinct cultures. It is there where I finally accepted and related to the words of Anne Hathaway “there’s something very addictive about pleasing. It is a thought pattern and a habit that feels really really good until it becomes desperate” Proximity in the same vicinity is certainly a major breeder of friendships, but time and life experiences will reveal the substance and foundations of these amities.

Okay, finally now back to my title, upon the revelation of a bible scripture John 15:13: “Greater love has no one than this that someone lay down his life for his friends“, the fact that friendships vary with various individuals. As well as the constant request to confirm my friendship circle with my good and close friends. I have found it best to establish a friendship hierarchy to prevent me from being burdened by pleasing mankind. First and foremost, The Lord Jesus is my best & closest Friend, His Holy Spirit is forever with me, He enables me to do,  teaches me, helps , leads , guides, comforts, heals me when I’m broken hearted, inspires and empowers me, accompanies me on every journey, reminds me of the Word of God and things I need to remember, listens  to my every conversation. I can share with Him anything on my heart, as my mama always says “He will never gossip about you“.

Subsequently are my close friends, those whom I treasure dearly, “my girls” as I call them, whom I share my whole life with, every tear, every laugh, every cry, every dream. Friends, whom I will organise family summer holidays and grow old together with. Then it is my good friends, whom I have established firm and strong bonds largely due to Christian sisterhood. Last but not least, it is my friends and acquaintances whom because of the love of God shed abroad in my heart by The Holy Spirit, I have positively connected with. In all forms of friendships, I have grasped that God’s unmerited favour is sufficient for us. The END, that’s my story what’s yours.

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